Divorce and the effects on children?
There was a time when American families believed that unhappy parents meant unhappy children. This belief made many parents seek divorce for their child’s happiness. With research spanning 30 plus years, it has been found that children suffer a lot and are very unhappy with their parents’ divorce and divorce process. There are many short-term and long-term effects of divorce.
Short-term effects of divorce
- Rebellious and depression – Children who experience their parents’ divorce often turn disobedient. Their performance and behavior can drop and they could also get into trouble. The child can go into depression by staying aloof.
- Aggressive behavior – Children can become very aggressive. This is one of their way to take out their frustration on you and your partner or teachers since they know they cannot change the reality.
- Feeling guilty – If your child is too young, then he/ she may think themselves to be responsible for the divorce. This can lead to bed wetting in younger children.
- Less parental control – When a divorce takes place, parental supervision is reduced drastically. For instance, a mom who stayed earlier at home might now have to go to work after divorce and hire a caretaker to take care of the kids. Due to less supervision or authority from the parents due to divorce, children start getting into problems or creating problems when they are not being noticed.
- Financial difficulties – The family income comes down significantly, which have an unfortunate impact on the family. Studies have proven that children from divorced families are more likely to be poor than those parents who get married.
Long-term effects of divorce
- Sexual promiscuity and drug abuse – Teenagers from divorced families are likely to engage in sexual activities and get used to drugs or alcohol. They can enter into wedlock at an early age or conceive a child outside of marriage. The child can show anti-social behavior.
- Education – There are chances that the child can discontinue his/ her studies and are likely to be less educated.
- Emotional scarring for a lifetime – Emotional scars in childhood and teenage years can pass onto their adulthood.